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But this time, instead of being horrified, I felt totally fucking badass.
I’d told him exactly what I expected from him, and in doing so, I recognized exactly what I was looking for myself.
I met a guy at a bar who happened to be friends with some guys I knew in college.We hit it off, went on a few dates, and then after about three weeks I got the text message I always seemed to get: one that appeared after two days of silence in which he asked to meet up because there were things he wanted to talk about.I knew what was coming, so I told him just to text it, since I didn’t want to waste time on what I knew would be a disappointing meet-up.I’d think, But then Jennifer Lawrence would hit the red carpet in a Dior gown and talk about how uncomfortable it was, and how much she wished she had some Mc Donalds, and men would swoon.So I carried on the charade, even after knowing full well what I was doing.It was a seriously alienating time — one in which I completely lost myself.I was so concerned with living up to what I thought these guys wanted that I forgot who Maria was.Not off the bat, but the guys I want to be spending time with are those who aren’t too scared to allow something to develop naturally.I don’t expect you to be my boyfriend tomorrow, but if you’re more interested in putting up arbitrary boundaries before I’ve even decided whether I like you or not than actually getting to know me, then I think it’s best we don’t see one another.As Gillian Flynn wrote in the novel, this is the type of "girl" who "smiles in a chagrined, loving manner and lets [her man] do whatever [he] wants." She is basically "the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain." Hearing the concept laid out so succinctly validated so many of my own insecurities about how I fell short of societal expectations of how a woman should make herself appealing to men (and judging by the barrage of smart reaction pieces about the Cool Girl that followed, many women on the internet felt the same way). I am overly analytical, sometimes earnest, definitely neurotic, and extremely emotional. My college boyfriend was obsessed with prog rock, so I downloaded Genesis and Rush to my i Pod — even though I hated it.When I worked behind a bar in my early 20s, I started shooting Jameson to impress one of the regulars I thought was a fox, even though the taste made my stomach turn.